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THAT MIDDLE FINGER

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I think my childhood may have been a tad lacking in some things but it was my Big Brother and my Best Friend who set me straight. Maybe my parents wouldn’t have agreed but how else was I to know about that middle finger?

I remembered the first time I saw it. I was learning to drive. Dad was my teacher. I actually got out of the mall parking lot and on the road in our ’64 Corvair. Needless to say, I was thrilled beyond words . Dad gained 20 white hairs and kept reminding himself I was the last off-spring to learn to drive and he could finally retire. At least, that’s what he always told us years later.

We were driving down this quiet residential street and Dad kept up a running commentary of “Stop sign coming, remember to stop” or “School zone, slow down” all the while his foot was tapping invisible brakes on his side.

I stopped, checked left, checked right and proceeded across. Immediately a raucous blare of someone’s horn jarred my concentration and a noisy Volks passed me with a finger sticking out, the middle finger.

Dad said, “Ignore that jerk. He had no right to pass as you were doing good. Make sure your door is locked.”

I thought back. What exactly did I do wrong? What did that finger mean? It clearly wasn’t friendly.

I showed my Big Brother when I got home and asked him what it meant.

“Don’t ever, ever do that finger thing to anyone and especially not in a car unless the windows are rolled up, the doors are locked and you drive away fast. It’s not a good thing to do unless you’re prepared to run.”

“But what does it mean?” I bugged him.

“It means bad things and even if you’re really angry, don’t do that middle finger thing. People–especially the wrong kind of people–find it insulting and fight-worthy.”

Big Brother explained it the best he could. I got the impression that males can do it ’cause they know how to fight and probably spoiling for a good fight. On the other hand, females aren’t supposed to be spoiling for any fight, so they’re not supposed to know this finger thing to get into trouble.

That was the explanation I got when I was sixteen.

I’m much older now. And I have arthritis in both hands. But it’s worse in my right hand. It affects my fingers, especially the middle finger that doesn’t fold down–it sticks up. The honest truth. I can’t make a decent fist without giving the finger.

“Why on earth would you want to make a fist?” asked my Best Friend.

“Well, you know–blood tests and stuff, they always ask you to make a fist.”

“Which hand is making the finger?” queried my BF.

“My right.”

“Well for Pete’s sake, it’s the left hand that would make any gesture out the driver’s window and all those fingers are good, right?”

“Yep.”

“Then stay away from using the right hand and it’s middle finger and you’ll be fine. Jeez for a minute there, you had me worried you got mixed up in the wrong crowd!”

“Do you realize that in my entire life so far, I’ve never used that middle finger wave and I’ve only seen it 3 times?”

“First of all, don’t ever wave that finger. Secondly, stay away from people who do. And thirdly, if you ever have to, make sure your windows are rolled up, the doors are locked and you drive away fast, ” my BF advised.

I forgot to ask how do you do the gesture if the windows are rolled up? Anyway, I’ve never had to give the unfriendly wave, so I guess I’m safe.

FROM “HONEY AND HUGS”

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I’ve always had a warm spot for Pooh-Bear and one of his besties, Piglet. Somehow, he always knows the right things to say. AND in this crazy world of ours, this is a very wise observation. . .

This is shared from “Honey and Hugs” (found on Facebook)–a wonderful collection of Pooh-Bear’s interpretation and observations in his 100 Acres Forest home.

HERE COMES AUTUMN. . . .

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Well, who would have thought Summer would eventually migrate south to warmer climates and sunnier days. Here we are, almost mid-October and all the signs of Fall are parading past on my walks–suddenly my walking tees and shorts are now sweaters and jeans.

The first signs for home-owners and pedestrians alike–the trees are shedding their leaves, baring themselves for Winter.

Heavy overnight rains often result in a burst of mushrooms, popping up on lawns, patches of bare soil and wherever they can grow. Summer had its occasional tiny patches but heading into cooler, wetter weather–larger patches of mushrooms seem to favour Fall.

These lichee-like fruit caught my attention last year, but I didn’t have my super spiffy cellphone that takes the photo and has the option of telling me what this is. Now I do. I was very surprised to discover that this is a species of dogwood, Cornus kousa.

The scented roses along this rock wall have finished their Summer blooms, leaving behind bright red rosehips–a sign of a season leaving and another beginning. . . .

Baskets of various squashes from my favorite shop, Gardenworks, definitely defines Fall. Mother Nature is preparing herself for a bountiful harvest and Winter’s hibernation.

Chinese Lanterns, coming to its almost dry whispy shells–ready for an Autumn floral bouquet–just in time for a Canadian Thanksgiving.

One eager homeowner had to set up his Halloween display before the month came to an end. October signifies hopefully, a bountiful Harvest, a Canadian Thanksgiving and it seems, Halloween.

I loved this when I saw it–an old farm truck piled with pumpkins at my favorite farmer’s market. . . .

With the Canadian Thanksgiving arriving in a few days, (October 13th), I have much to be thankful for. I am thankful that all my family are in good health and secure in their various homes. I am thankful that my American family and friends are safe and well where they live. I am thankful for living in a democratic country with freedom of speech and the freedom to vote however I choose. A few may disrupt the system, but never destroy it. . . yet. All our rights, so fiercely fought for by all our ancestors, must never be taken for granted and left unprotected.

MAY THIS THANKSGIVING FILL YOUR HEART AND HOME WITH LOVE, FAMILY, FRIENDS FROM BOTH SIDES OF THE BORDER AND HOPE FOR A BETTER TOMORROW.

AND FOR THOSE WHO COULDN’T THINK OF ANYTHING TO BE THANKFUL FOR–THEN BE THANKFUL FOR EACH DAY THAT BRINGS US A FRESH START. . . . .

HAPPY THANKSGIVING FROM MY HOUSE TO YOURS.

New Adventures. . . .

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September seems to beckon with new adventures. I suppose it’s because September gave a brazen wave telling us “Say farewell to lazy, sunny Summer, ‘cause here I come in all my blazing glory!” Little kids starting formal schooling for the first time AND adults trying new activities at the Senior Centre. New adventures for everyone. One of my neighbors was eager to try her skills at pickleball and signed up for classes. Another friend signed up for billiards while a third was determined to prove her bridge skills. Exercise classes and dance classes did not beckon to me yet, so I decided to go for a walk and see what new adventures awaited on whatever route I ambled along. Besides, I was testing out my new pedometer and was curious to see how far I really walk when I do my jaunts.

Tucked among some rocks, I found this treasure that set the mood for the early morning.

A person certainly couldn’t be gloomy seeing that! A few blocks along, I decided to explore a lane I had never noticed before, And just as I walked a few yards, a bright yellow house with the most cheerful garden came into view. I’m sure it was the colorful “cat” umbrellas providing shade to some of the more fragile flowers and foliage housed in colorful pottery set against the yellow—but it made me smile with delight.

Framed in a “window” of the hedge and foliage, was this tiny birdhouse, perched near one of the umbrellas. This was almost missed. . . .

Reluctantly leaving this show-stopping corner, I moved along to see what else awaited me down the lane and over the hill. . .

Near the end of the lane, another backyard showed a replica of a Chinese Terracotta Warrior. It looked as if he was peacefully meditating in a serene corner surrounded by Nature. I thought of it as his calm before the storm of war.

The fruit of this tree stumped me. Then I remembered my handy-dandy grown-up cellphone and used it. Wikipedia informed me that this was a species of a “Chinese Lantern” tree. I had never seen a real Chinese Lantern before that wasn’t a dried orangey husk used for Fall arrangements! You really do learn something new every day!

I knew there were loads of readers in my area because most streets had at least one ‘free library’ available to any passerby. I loved to photograph the colorful and unusual ones. This one caught my eyes because whoever built it continued the marine theme by using glass seahorse knobs for the doors. . . . .

I decided to turn right onto a major road that would take me through the Village and finally home. I had heard that the merchants were sponsoring local artists by having their works displayed in their front windows or on the street. I was curious to see what was chosen.

Initially, I had thought this ‘elegant’ lady was constructed of paper mache, but I was wrong. The owner of the ladies’ wear who sponsored this piece of art said it was strong enough to sit on. AND she did. The seat was surprisingly quite comfy. There were a lot of details artfully added to the gown, neckline and hair, but my eyes were caught by the sturdy black boots beneath the elegant gown. . .

A few windows beyond, this piece of art pulled my camera closer. . .

Does this remind you of fun school trips and the not-so-fun part of writing or drawing what you learned?

I’m not sure if this birdhouse builder meant this to be hung so low, but concluded these were meant to be decorative. They looked so cute and pretty.

Yes, Fairies are real. You just have to believe. . . .

The flowers and fruit trees are pushing out their colors–the fruit is definitely coming. AND those busy squirrels are scurrying to gather up the fallen nuts. .

The deer population has been growing with many twins and a set of triplets. This one was a lonely only. However, all the deer know exactly where to go for the best nibbleys and greens. . . .

Home at last! It was a fun walk and I did learn something along the way as well as enjoy all the things I saw on my rambling walk. I hope you enjoyed it too. Stay safe and well. . .always.

AN EARLY MORNING. . . .

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I love my early morning walks the best. Not because it’s cooler or even quieter, but because I’m always amazed at things I see and can photograph. I can be attracted to gardens or store-fronts or even a simple bloom that must be photographed or it’s gone forever.

The deer population had been quiet–meaning unseen–on my walks, although the gardeners have remarked how much of their gardens had been treated as a buffet for the four-legged wildlife. Much as I sympathized with munched upon gardens, I marvel at their survival instincts. I wasn’t quick enough or close enough to photograph a Mama Deer with her very young triplets or another family with their new twins. On another early morning walk, I did see several young bucks taking their chances being hit with an errant golf ball. I think the second guy felt no one would hit him among the trees. . . .

I enjoy spotting the unusual among the garden plants in stranger’s gardens. I admire the creativity of so many who do their best with very little.

These were handpainted plates mounted on a worn fence and tucked behind some lavendulas and tiny daisies. Another fence had ‘musical roosters’. I recognized the sax-playing bird on another owner’s property but had never seen the guitar playing buddy. His guitar isn’t clearly seen as he’s turned the other way. . . .

Since I was exploring lanes and side streets I wasn’t familiar with, my walking route was rather convoluted. The short street I was walking on took me back to the water view, which changed constantly.

The centre art piece is called “Cosmos” and is one of the newly installed 2025 Oak Bay Street Art at McNeil Bay. Cosmos is likke a giant pinwheel and often caught spinning by the sea breezes. The “Copper Bird” is an art piece from 2021-2022. It was an amazing sight when caught by the sunlight.

Signs always fascinated me. It can say so much with only a picture or a few well chosen words.

The last photo is a well-worn sign with a faded raven and the words, “The Coven.” It intrigued me as no one was in and the sign on the door simply stated “By Appointment Only.” As a writer, my brain was buzzing a million miles a minute. Was it really? Could it be? Rest easy my friends. It is a very clever marketing ploy by a trio of creative and professional hair stylists. . .

It’s true that if you stand still and keep looking up, people will stop and look up too–even if there was nothing you were actually looking at! BUT, there have been times when I would have missed completely moments like the following:

I’ve seen many birdhouses but this is the first multi-housing one. Who would have thought our feathered friends would be having problems finding their nesting place?

An old-fashion cowbell at the high back gate but with the cow attached! AND, yes it does have a very loud ring . . .

This house had an old-fashioned bi-plane hanging from their tree. It was made of recycled coco cola cans and looked amazing.

I’ve often wondered if the deer could actually read this sign. I think just looking at the grumpy face would be enough to deter them. . .or maybe not.

You don’t have to get a crick in your neck looking up. You can also look around and see some pretty entertaining things.

Everyone makes their home their own. I’m convinced the first is a retired fisherman. The second homeowner has a gate that is distinctive and marks the garden and home behind it as his. AND even the gnome’s home has his comfy bench to sit on to enjoy his early morning coffee. . .

Another fun walk to almost end my week. I feel very blessed that photographic moments are there for my camera to capture. No matter which direction I walk, the opportunities are present–you only have to see them.

WHOOPS

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(NOTE: This is an excerpt from an on-going manuscript of a group of retirees who meet each morning for coffee and conversations with their Moka-House friends. They are of various ages and careers ranging from 57-88. Their opinions don’t always agree. The book is tentatively titled “The Moka-House Gang.”

“You know the one word you never want to hear a repairman utter?” asked Henry Goldman, as he put his cup of mocha latte on the large round table where Charlie Swanson and Annie Loo were already enjoying their coffees and pastries.

“Bill?” laughed Annie.

“No, ‘whoops,'” was the morose reply. “Goodness Henry, what happened?” Annie asked in a concerned voice. “Plumbing problem,” Henry said succinctly.

For a moment, only the sounds of cups returning to its saucers and jaws enjoying the Moka-House pastries were heard. Violet Whitfield and Walter Young both made places for themselves and their coffees at the round table.

“Uh-oh, I heard the word ‘plumbing'” Walter said sympathetically.

“Plumber,” said Henry. “Young one,” he added solemnly.

“Young doesn’t necessarily mean ‘inexperienced’,’ Violet commented.

“It does when Senior figures Junior can handle the simple problem of replacing a filler valve.” “Uh-oh,” Walter murmured, knowing what would happen.

“I could have done it but my hip doesn’t allow me to squeeze into that tight space to turn off the outside water valve,” Henry explained.

“Did he forget that important step before he drained the tank first?” Annie asked with a grin. “Yep,” was the succinct reply.

“Oh my,” Violet commented.

“It was a good thing I insisted the kid put a bucket where it was needed, otherwise there would have been much more mopping to do. Being young and thinking he knew it all made his learning experience a very wet one!”

“Well hopefully Junior changed his attitude and chalked this up as an experience never to be repeated!” Violet huffed indignantly.

“You know,” Charlie said thoughtfully, “we all tagged this youngster as inexperienced as soon as Senior called him Junior. Well Junior definitely has his own interpretation of a white-haired senior who tried to tell him about the shut-off valve. After all, who’s the real plumber here?”

A moment of silence followed while everyone munched the last bites of their danishes, brownies and Charlie’s wise observations. Then Violet spoke.

“I sympathize for you , Henry. It must have been a very trying experience. I hope Junior ventures forth on his plumbing career with an enlightened attitude towards seniors.”

“And I hope he does change his attiude as he won’t make it far in his career. There’s an awful lot of seniors needing the services of a plumber in the immediate future. If a smart-aleck-know-it-all lands on my doorstep, I’m not sure I have the patience to deal with him,” Annie added.

“I can understand the ‘whoops’ part,” Walter added, “but what did your plumbing bill actually come to–especially with the mini-flood in your bathroom?”

“Senior decided the work was free gratis. Junior confessed he had ignored my suggestion about the turn-off valve. Senior actually rechecked his son’s work and it was all fine–just that one wet mistake!” Reflecting a moment, Henry added, “Junior definitely changed his attitude and apologized for his mistake. I think he’ll do just fine despite this mishap on his first solo as a plumber.”

“Well, I’m glad all’s well that ends well,” Charlie commented. “At my age, everyone is a youngster. By the time I use their services, they are all experienced. After all, we were all in their shoes once too.”

Gathering up his newspapers and popping his cap on his head, Charlie nodded his goodbye to everyone as he headed out the door, fortified with coffee and conversation to start his day.

MY COUNTRY’S BIG DAY

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Today, July 1st is my country’s big day–Canada Day. My country is 158 years old so it is still very young. I have always felt proud being Canadian. When my grandparents came from China in the early 1900’s, it was supposedly a land of opportunities for this was a very young country. It was a lie for the country was still ruled by racists and strong prejudicial feelings towards any non-white foreigner who was willing to work hard at any menial job just to survive and raise a family. Both my parents were born in Canada, but not recognized as Canadians. It was a hard life for them too because racism and prejudice still ruled. When World War 2 broke out, young Chinese men enlisted to fight for an adopted country who didn’t want them. My father helped build ships. They fought a war that semi-promised they would have citizenship as Canadians when the war ended. It wasn’t until 1949 when Chinese Canandians were allowed to vote, giving them the opportunity to finally enter business, universities and pursue professional careers.

My brother, sister and I were fortunate. By the time we were born, people were more open-minded in their thinking. Education and opportunities were there if one was willing to work hard. My classmates and I did. There were engineers, teachers, doctors, lawyers, accountants–even politicians and judges. Times were changing and Canada was growing.

Today, my fellow Canadians and I are sharing strong patriotic feelings for our country. We are made up of thousands of immigrants who, like my grandparents, built up generations of their families, making Canada their forever home. Asians, Europeans, Middle -Easterners, Africans–any one wanting to start a new life–all contributed their cultures, foods and skills to make Canada special. The First Nations people, who were here first, have fought long and hard to be recognized too. We all have a history. We all have a story.

July 1st will see new Canadians proudly taking the oath of allegiance to their new country. Many will be grateful for the opportunities to choose their own paths; the freedom to speak and write their thoughts; the freedom to travel wherever they w ish. I can’t imagine living in a country with a dictator who rules using terror and fear 24/7. And if your thinking is not along the lines of the dictator, then you are labeled a subversive, a dissident, a trouble-maker.

I hope and pray Canada will never be that. We need to speak out freely. We need to disagree if something doesn’t seem right. President Trump said Canadians were difficult people. We’re not. He just hasn’t learned the art of respect, diplomacy, friendship, compromise and fair negotiations. He can’t run a country like a television show. Pointing a finger and yelling, ‘You’re fired!’ just isn’t acceptable. And, he can’ t take another country just because he wants to.

I feel grateful and proud that I’m a Canadian. Today my walking route was through the Village and along the water, but the Canadian flag was fluttering in the breeze everywhere. Thanks to my grandparents who came to this country and put down roots for all the generations to follow. Their perseverence, determination and hard work, despite all the difficulties, made the members of my family what they are today.

Canada Day is a celebration that Canada is its own unique country. Yes, we still have growing pains and bumps in the road as we navigate our future. After all, my country is only 158 years old. But we will never be the 51st state for our American neighbors. I live near the US border and American visitors to my city will always be warmly welcomed. I have many friends and some family in the US. Visits across the border have always been friendly and fun. But forgive me if I travel within my own country for the next little while.

As Canadians celebrate with enthusiasm and joy July 1st, I wish all my American friends and family the same for their July 4th. No matter what side of the border we live in, people are the same. We all want a peaceful existance with democracy in full display. This is what we all fought for in our long histories. And, this is what we all want to firmly hold.

A JUNE WALK

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So far, June has been a month of blue-skies and sunshine. It wasn’t difficult to decide on a walking route–choose the one with the cool breeze, a water view at the end and a place for coffee plus an almond croissant. I knew the route I would take–it would take me past a few of the recently installed Avenue Art 2025.

One of the first pieces installed is titled “Modern Man Thinking.” It is a very provocative and controversial piece constructed of stainless steel and cleverly assembled. I noticed the Tin Man’s boots first—very detailed–then the cigarette he held to his mouth and the cellphone in his other hand. It was my Singalong buddy who pointed out what the Tin Man was sitting on. I couldn’t stop laughing. . . .I hadn’t noticed . AND here I thought my neighborhood was too conservative!

It appears there is no common theme for the art pieces this year. Each piece is quite individual and completely on its own. The first is an acryllic face I named “Ice Maiden”; the centre piece is two fish locking lips and heck if I know what that means! And the last piece is named by its artist, “Butterflies in Flight.” There are a few blank places left so it will be fascinating to see what will be installed there over the next few weeks.

Moving through the Village, I remembered the three strange flowering plants that had been planted by the Village clock’s container. And yes, my new iPhone identified it as “Tower of Jewels.” This is a biennial, native to the Canary Islands off the coast of Morocco and now surviving in my neighborhood.  This photo was taken in late April–now, the blooms have fallen and it is all green. I think the bees are giving a huge sigh of relief as the zillions of flowers were quite challenging . . .

As I continued onwards, I marvelled at the many creative ways home-owners made gardens from very little. Not all the homes along my route had big front yards , but I liked what was done with the space available.

A tiny corner off the sidewalk. . .what a wonderfully, peaceful bench to sit and think. . . among the colorful flowers.

Small plants in colorful ceramic pots–resting on a bed of pebbles–very eye-catching.

These hardy purple flowers are thriving very well at the edge of a gas station–hot as blazes with hardly any soil.

I think even my brown thumb can manage this!

Outside the gates of this home that has security, I saw this rooster playing his horn very confidently in a tiny patch of purple flowers..

There’s something about gates that I’m attracted to–this one has a crane–I would love to see the garden behind. . .

I was walking past and had to return for another look. Yes–it definitely was a tiny blue ceramic frog enjoying his stump time in the hot sun. . .

The Dogwood Flowers, BC’s provincial flower, are all in bloom now. They are so magnificent when it fully covers the tree.

I do enjoy the whimsical humor of home-owners. They have definitely recycled a bit of tree stump!

Almost home and the many flowers, along my route, are all blooming well. I enjoy the colors, the warmth of the sun, that bit of breeze. These are just a few of the blooms–they are at their peak and will be enjoyed by all the walkers who pass by.

Passing my fave store called “Good Things,” I had this urge to enter and explore. I was glad I did as this cluster of unique houses made a fantastic photo op.

Perfect ending to my walk. I was almost home and I had walked off that delicious almond croissant. Tomorrow would be another day to explore another direction and hopefully more photos.

DASHING INTO 2025

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As usual, I can’t believe we are at the mid-January mark. Where did the first two weeks of a brand new year go?

A few days ago, I decided to see if Spring was very far away. The first thing I saw were clusters of snowdrops carpeting the bare ground. To me, Spring had definitely arrived early.

Most Christmas decorations had been removed from houses, buildings, the Village businesses and lamp-posts. But there was one that was just too cute to pack away quickly. I almost missed the cute Holiday Llama. . . .tucked behind some firs and shrubs . . .

Art and Literature seemed to abound on my walk. I love when this happens because each is so unexpected when you’re not looking for it.

The above pieces of glass sculpture were displayed in the Avenue Gallery front window. Often the Gallery would display a large painting to complement the sculptures and this was another successful pairing. Unfortunately, I showed only a corner of the beautiful painting.

But when is art considered graffiti? AND when is graffiti considered art? Abandoned buildings are often canvases for artistic graffiti if there is such a thing. The two pieces of “art” below were painted on two abandoned doors that were part of a derelict building. These were taken a year ago as the doors are no longer there today.

One more photo–Is this considered graffiti (it was painted on the side of a skateboard ramp). . .or is it artisitic graffiti?

The quote below was on the display window of The Village’s bookstore. I thought Neil Gaiman must be a very wise man to write these words.

“I hope that in the year to come, you make mistakes. Because if you are making mistakes, then you are learning new things–learning, living, pushing. You are changing your world. You’re doing things never done before and more importantly, you’re doing something.” ( by Neil Gaiman on Ivy’s Bookstore window)

The contents of the Village Bulletin Board yield an unexpected piece of literature. Tacked atop the ad for piano lessons was a poignant break-up letter of regrets and good-bye.

I often wondered if this very public letter ever reached the person it was intended for—as the letter mysteriously disappeared 3 days later.

My homeward bound route was through Bowker Creek Park. The Creek had been undergoing a serious redevelopment of preserving the natural habitat for the ducks. The vegetation and natural plants were carefully cultivated and protected. That day, the ducks were out in full numbers with a lot of “Donalds” looking for their forever “Daisies.”

Single, happy and full of confidence, still searching for his perfect “Daisy.”

Oops! Lots of bachelors and is that an unimpressed “Daisy”?

Don’t worry, fellas. . .Valentine’s coming

Swinging through a side street, I found an unexpected piece of garden art. I really believe if a person looks. . .really look. . .art does pop out and grab your eyeballs. . . .

Then I came across a surprising sculpture at the bottom of the entrance to St. Mary’s Anglican Church.

And then took a closer look at the white tag. . . .guess this is called useful art!

I couldn’t resist adding one final piece of art—-the sandals and sneakers were covering a whole section of fence. AND was a traffic stopper at the major intersection.

I’m not sure why the theme was “shoes” but it reminded me how very diverse and clever and creative, we all can be. We come from different cultural roots with different influences and yet we are all similar. We are adaptable and survivors.

Life isn’t about waiting for the thunder and lightning to pass; it’s about waiting for the doughnuts to finish baking and to keep dancing in the noisy storm. . . .